I’m undocumented, and an ally to my queer daughters

Soy indocumentada, y aliada de mis hijas LGBTQ

Hace unos anos, probablemente nueve, mi hija me dijo que tal vez iniciaria una relacion con una companera. Mi respuesta fue “respeta mis ideas y yo voy a respetar las tuyas” y por nueve años he tratado de corregir el error que cometi entonces.

Debi haber dicho: mami te quiero mucho, tu eres libre de tomar tus decisions, tengo plena confianza en ti y te apoyare siempre plenamente. Cuenta conmigo para lo que necesites”

Ahora quiero aprovechar esta oportunidad para decirles a mis dos hijas que las quiero mucho, que me siento orgullosa de ellas y que cuenten con todo mi apoyo siempre…”

Los padres comenetmos muchos errores no solo por que nuestras ideas son anticuadas y tenemos muchos prejuicios, tambien cometemos errores porque queremos protegerlos.

Hace 9 anos no tenia idea de lo que era la comunidad LGBTQ. Ahora al conocer alos amigos de mis hijas me doy cuenta que es una comunidad vivrantey alegre que tiene que luchar contra siglos de atrazo cultural y siglos de prejuicios acumulados por la ignorancia.

He aprendido mucho y mis hijas han tenido una paciencia infinita conmigo.

Hoy quiero decirles que los felicito porque ustedes estan poniendo de relieve que nadie tiene derecho a decirnos como vivir nuestras vidas. Gacias por seguir ducandonos a nosotros como padres y a nuestras comunidades.

Y nunca,nunca olviden que los hijos son para nosotros el tesoro mas valioso y que los queremos mucho aunque a veces no sepamos como decirlo o como demostrarlo.

Mi nombre es Rosi, soy indocumentada y madre y aliada de mis hijas queer y sus amigos.

 

I’m undocumented, and an ally to my queer daughters


Several years ago, probably 9, my daughter told me that perhaps she would initiate a relationship with a girlfriend . My response was “Respect my ideas and I will respect yours” and for nine years I tried to correct the mistake I made at that time.

I should have said: mami I love you, you are free to make your decisions, I have full confidence in you I will support your decisions always. Count on me for anything you need ”

Nine years later I am correcting my mistake and I want to take this opportunity to tell my two daughters that I love them , I am very proud of them and I will always support their decisions…and of course I love their friends.

We as parents make many mistakes not only because our ideas are outdated and because we have many prejudices, we also make mistakes because we want to protect our daughters and sons.

Nine years ago I did not have idea about the struggles of the LGBTQ communities. Now that I know my daughters friends I realize that the LGBTQ community is a vivrant community that has to struggle against centuries of cultural oppression and centuries of prejudice built up by ignorance. I have learned a lot because my daughters have had endless patience with me.

Today I want to say I commend you because you are teaching us that nobody has the right to tell us what to do with our life. Thank you for educating us, as parents and as a members of our communities.

And never ever forget that for us, parents, our children are the most precious treasure we have. We love you even when sometimes we do not know how to say it or how to show our love.

My name is Rosi, I am undocumented, and a mother and ally to my queer daughters and their friends.

This is the 5th in a series of posts about coming out as queer and undocumented. This speech was recorded on June 07th, 2011 as part of United Latino Pride Week, in an event co-organized by IYJL, and the Association of Latino Men for Action. Check out the previous posts: “Jorge: Gay, undocumented & Unapologetic,” “I want my Queer and Undocumented to be Friends,” “I’m Queer, I’m undocumented, and I’m out”, Today Means Complete Liberation”

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solidarityforever says:

Rosi, this is so beautiful it made me cry. To all those reading this letter and this response: this is one of the most beautiful families I’ve ever known in my life. To watch them is to be inspired; to know them is to feel enveloped in health and cleanliness of spirit!